Poll: What are some common fears and resistance to joining social networking and media?

Poll: What are some common fears and resistance to joining social networking and media?

For Share This!, I’m trying to cover and answer some of the most common hesitant feelings when it comes to people getting fully on board with the social networking movement. If you’re not active already, what are the questions you need answered, or the fears you have? For those that are in deep, what do you hear from the people around you who aren’t?

Also, I’m doing a series of “Yeah, But…” sidebars to help answer questions. What are your “yeah, buts”?

Here are the fears and yeah-buts I’ve heard most (in no particular order):

  • I don’t want people to know about my private life
  • I like using social networks to maintain my personal relationships, but I don’t like blending the professional stuff in with it
  • I feel like I have to get everything right/perfect before I join an online conversation (most often with blogging)
  • I don’t have time for any of this stuff.
  • Yeah but… the corporations/government are gathering so much info about us.
  • … everything moves too fast. I can’t keep up.
  • … media/journalism require money/investment. Social networks can’t replace that.
  • … these social networks are all closed/walled gardens. Why don’t we all do something open source?

Maybe one more question, for intermediate and advanced folks: If you could look back at your pre-social-networking self and offer one piece of insight or wisdom, what would it be? Is there anything you wish you’d known before you joined into social networks?

Leave everything in the comments below; I’ll let yous know which ones make it into the draft and the final versions of the book.

  • Crystal
    Posted at 11:59h, 03 September

    My primary social network is Facebook – which I joined in college, way back when only college students could join. Then, we spent so much time adding every person we had ever met or taken a single class with, even if we never talked, that it took over our semester. In addition to that, we added every photo we could find without thought of our privacy or impacts on our professional life. Now, four years later, my professional contacts and colleagues are joining all the social networks and commenting on my status and photos and knowing when I’m being unproductive at work.

    With that said, the one piece of insight I’d give my pre-social networking self is to familiarize myself with the privacy settings and wait at least one day between receiving a ‘friend request’ and accepting the request. It’s much more difficult and time consuming to clean up your social networking sites after your college years in preparation for life as a young professional. I still cannot imagine enough hours in the day where I could organize my ‘friends’ into categories with specific settings that could allow me to keep some private life connections and interactions private and separate from my professional contacts. It is a bit much that I know have 4 levels of supervisors ‘friend’ me and ‘follow’ me.

  • deanna zandt
    Posted at 16:24h, 03 September

    [Adding a great series from a comment on Facebook, from my friend Karen.]

    1. I’ve been stalked before and don’t want to be found easily.
    2. Everything online is forever. I like private communications that cannot be accessed by other people. I don’t trust any social media to completely protect my communications which means I have to be willing to risk that anyone can and will see them.
    3. A lot of people who are on social media abuse it (IMHO) and post a lot of nonsense. Sorting through all the junk to get to the good stuff is time consuming.
    4. I talk to whom I want when I want, so who needs it?
    5. A prevalence of written communication diminishes verbal and “in-person” communication, which shoves relationships into a thinner existence.
    6. (This one is real for me) Since I am a writer, some of my friends who don’t write hesitate to communicate in writing because they think I will judge them and find them wanting. Despite my insistence that I’d be a pretty lousy friend if I did such a thing, I know they don’t write. So how do I know which of my friends aren’t talking to me because of the form of communication?

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  • Tamara Suttle
    Posted at 02:23h, 23 September

    Thanks so much for asking the questions and taking time to answer them! I so need your answers!

    Although I blog for one of my businesses . . . helping therapists and allied health professionals develop their practices, I, too, am concerned about joining in on the remainder of the social networking opportunities. The reason? Because, the other half of my professional life is as a Licensed Professional Counselor in private practice. We are ethically bound to not blur the lines between our personal and professional lives with our (past or present) clients.

    Do you understand the dilemma? It may very well be that I can totally control who sees my info . . . . I don’t know about that. I’ve heard other therapists talk about having a social media account (can’t remember if it was Facebook or something else) actually go into their email address books and automatically send invitations to everyone in their database! I can’t have that . . . at all!

    Nor can I have my clients just randomly googling my name and my personal info / Facebook accounts coming up (unless of course I’ve formatted them for business purposes only).

    I would like to be able to reconnect with individuals from my past for social purposes but I know so little that the risks (real or imagined) keep me from it.

    Tamara G. Suttle, M.Ed., LPC

  • Kyra Gaunt
    Posted at 18:28h, 07 October

    I am moderating the nonprofit panel at Baruch College on Oct 19. Can’t wait to meet you, learn from you and the others. We have a call on Friday to prepare. In the meantime, I am stealing ideas from your blog. I twitter @kyraocity. Best, Kyra

    About the seminar in NYC http://www.baruch.cuny.edu/spa/researchcenters/nonprofitstrategy/events.php

  • Kyra Gaunt
    Posted at 18:29h, 07 October

    PS Can you assist us with setting up a Twitter Feed just for the event?? I see this all the time but have no clue where ppl start one of these for TED or the Feast Conference I just attended.